Statistics show that most couples don't come in for couples therapy until six years after their problems start. Imagine noticing a lump somewhere in your body and not talking to a doctor about it for six years! If you notice that you and your loved one are fighting “mean,” or if the number of “off-limits” topics and closed doors is growing or if you argue too much about sex, money or kids, then it’s time to get help for your relationship. When working with couples, I often focus on two major themes:
- How to grow what is already good about your relationship
- How to find ways to connect to the heart and soul of the person you are with and see and be seen for who you truly are
We look at reasonable and unreasonable expectations of self, others and the relationship. We talk about sex and intimacy. We talk about playfulness and friendship. We talk about managing conflict. We talk about emotional safety. We talk about same-page parenting when relevant. We talk about simple logistics for communicating effectively with one another.
This is not just a job to me. This is your life and I would be honored to help you with the relationship that means the most to you. My heart sings when couples talk about the joy of having a calmer, more peaceful relationship with couples therapy.
I love watching a couple go from being distant and apart, to regaining friendship and connection.
John and I are both huge fans of Kerry and we agree she is the best! She helped us literally walk from the brink of the end of our marriage to a really great place and we of all people never thought that would happen. Thank you Kerry, you truly saved us!Shirlee McDaniels
You will find as you look back upon your life that the moments when you have really lived, are the moments when you did things in a
spirit of love.