You’ve got the one who used to roll his eyes every time his mom mentioned the word ‘volunteer’ writing to you today.
I heard one of the simplest yet wisest things from a 13-year-old last week, and I believe everyone could benefit from reflecting on it—now during the holiday season or anytime, honestly.
We were using some of my question cards during a coaching call, and the question was, “What is the cause of suffering in the world?” His answer: “Greed and hatred.” I kid you not when I say I’ve spent hours since pondering his answer and discussing it with friends. I don’t think there are two better words to answer that question. While it might not cover every source of suffering, it does a pretty dang job of summing up much of it.
That answer got me thinking: If greed and hatred are two major sources of suffering, how might I be contributing to them? And more importantly, what actions could I take to reduce the suffering around me?
I like to think of myself as a mindful and intentional person, but when I reflect on how I could love people better and support others, there’s still so much room for improvement. At a minimum I could make small adjustments—things that wouldn’t disrupt my life but would allow me to use my time, money, and energy more efficiently to help those around me. Too often, I make excuses: “I need this” or “I can’t make time for that.” But in reality… I could.
It’s so easy to fall into routines where we miss chances to love and care for people. Yet I wholeheartedly believe that loving and supporting others is one of the biggest reasons we’re all here on this blue rock called Earth.
I’ve seen kids, parents, families, and individuals with varying views on helping others. When we explore where those beliefs come from, one thing is clear: they are almost always shaped by parents and family. Society needs parents to model loving and generous actions—not just talk about them, but show them.
So, ideally, this is a conversation you have with your kids. If not, talk with your significant other, a friend, or someone close to you (research shows that discussing your plans with someone makes it more likely you’ll follow through). Here are two questions to reflect on and discuss:
Who in your life could use a little extra love and care right now? Text or call them to let them know you’re thinking about them, or invite them to spend time together.
What’s one way you can show generosity and empathy in your community? Pick an action and set a time to do it. Here are a few ideas:
- Serve meals at a soup kitchen
- Donate food or clothing to a shelter
- Join a community clean-up
- Make holiday cards for nursing homes
- Participate in a toy or book drive
I used to roll my eyes every time my mom pushed us to do this stuff but ultimately watching her and her dad do so much for others made it a priority for me now as an adult. Also, If I am being honest sometimes I still need my wife to get my butt out the door for voluntering projects 😅I’m a work in progress.
As always, grateful for you and hope you have a great Sunday and impactful week!
Kerry and Palmer 🙂
