“Is It Really OK To Say ‘No’ To My Child?”

In the mid-1960’s a few parenting “experts” questioned whether we ought to say this word to our children.

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Some worried that If I Say ‘No’ To My Child, this could damage kids’ self-concepts. Others seemed concerned that it would stifle creativity.

Kids need to hear “No” from time to time.

Listed below are some practical guidelines:
1. Say “No” only when you can back it up with meaningful actions.
2. When we say “no” without holding our children accountable, we teach them that “no” really means “yes.”
3. Say “No” only when you can do so without anger and frustration.
4. Kids love to challenge us just to see our face turn red!
5. Say “No” only when it doesn’t rob your child of a good learning experience.
6. If a child is about to do something that’s not dangerous…but will backfire for them…it’s often wiser to allow them to learn from their mistake instead of saying “No.”

When We Need to Say ‘No’ To My Child:

“No” is a critically important parenting tool that wears out if it’s used too often. Save it for times, it’s really needed. When it’s really necessary to be strict with the child or a situation that can be solved otherwise, we can use this word.


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